Nice Guys

Monday, October 16, 2006

Nice guys Category: Life Occasionally I'll be watching T.V. Yes, I love television, among a lot of the filler is some very good entertainment. And for those that say they "don't watch tv" I say too bad you are missing some good entertainment. And there are times when a character does something that reminds me of me. Tonight I was watching "What about Brian?". Brian is the odd man out in his circle of friends in that he is either not married or not in a relationship. (like me) His friends are all involved with someone. Brian's best friend is about to get married to Marjorie. The subplot from last Spring is that Brian has a thing for Marjorie but since his best friend is marrying her he has stepped aside. Well tonight we find out the history of Brian and Marjorie. It turns out that Brian met her first at a New Years Eve Party earlier that year. He had seen her enter the room from his vantage point on the baclony. He went down to talk to her. A little later in the evening he was bringing her a drink when he spotted his best friend chatting her up. His friend new that Brian was interested in her. Brian being the kind of guy that he is he decided that he wouldn't cut in on his friend (lifelong friend from the 3rd grade) since they had always said that they would not let a girl get between them (bro's before ho's). Brian'a always the nice guy and has his buddies back even though his friend usually has his own back first before Brian's. Well Marjoire still has a thing for Brian but also loves Adam (the friend) so borrowing a scene from "The Graduate" Brian borrows a car and rushes to the Church to tell Marjorie not to marry Adam. She tells him it's too late, that he should have done something sooner. So what is all this about and why did I tell you about the story? Because Brian and I are very much alike. We will defer to others and step aside and let them have their happiness at the cost of our own. Or we wait too long to say what should have been said and now it's too late. Nice guys walk a very thin line. There is so much expectation surrounding you when you are a nice guy that if you deviate slightly towards a selfish act it shocks everyone. Unlike when that person you know who usually acts without regard to the feelings of others does soemthing selfish and it doesn't raise an eyebrow from the circle of friends. The thing is nice guys are just what we are and cannot change. I don't think we should even if it means not getting the girl. Nice guys don't finish last, we just take a little longer to get there. After all it's the journey not the destination. (thank you for letting me ramble)