No one knows

Monday, June 26, 2006

No one knows Current mood: crushed Category: Friends No one knows what is happening at any given moment to the people in their lives unless you are right beside them or 'talking' to them when something happens to alter their plans or arrangement made with you. All we have to go on is the last thing said to us in the absense of furthter information. Sometimes this leads to misunderstandings, reactionary behaviour or just wondering "WTF?". Nobody is right or wrong under those circumstances. The person who forgot or didn't think it was neccesary to communicate a change in plans simply didn't think they needed to or perhaps an emergency came up and there was no time. The other person unfortunately has time to think and wonder "what happened?" That's when the trouble begins. If they have a history of people flaking on them whether it's this person or not it colors their perception of the situaton. In my case I have had a friend who was going through what turned into a nasty divorce and was being stalked and terrorized by her ex so anytime a female friend of mine doesn't get a hold of me when plans were made or tentaively made and a day or so passes without any word then yes the thought does go thru my mind that they may be in trouble or worse. I guess what I am trying to say here is there are always two sides to consider and friendships should be stronger than misunderstandings or misinterpratations of facts and both parties should always want to clear them up. Thank you for reading thru my ramble.